Dating and sex advice
He told me I could take as much time as I needed to feel comfortable having sex with him.
He had been infected as a teenager and was used to managing outbreaks and mixed reactions from partners, which explains why he was so patient with me.
If you can asymptomatically shed the virus from any point of your body and it can infect any point of another person’s body, isn’t any type or location of herpes just…herpes?
It’s also important to remember that HSV lives in your central nervous system, where it hibernates until it sees a good opportunity, such as when your immune system is weakened, to come out and multiply (causing an outbreak).
In fact, the majority of Americans have at least one form of the herpes virus, and you can get it from kissing, fucking, sharing a drink, or basically any form of close contact with a mucous membrane.
After brushing up on my herpes facts, I felt incredibly vulnerable.
Not everyone has symptoms, but this doesn't mean you can't pass the virus to others.At that point, I had real feelings for him and didn't want to walk away.I took immune-boosting supplements (even though research on supplements to prevent herpes is inconclusive) and made sure he was taking his herpes medication, which decreases chances of transmission as well as his frequency of outbreaks — and then we just kind of went about our sex lives without fretting too much. We decided to be mostly monogamous, agreeing that when we were in the same city, we would only see each other. Should I then disclose to my new partners that I have genital herpes?After the relationship ended (for non-STI reasons), I wanted to get tested for HSV II, but my doctor said that because it takes so long to build up antibodies, results would be inconclusive. After a long discussion over the ethics of herpes, my doctor and I decided that it was unnecessary to tell future partners that I’d come into contact with it — because, after all, most sexual adults likely have, too.It would be like telling everyone that I have the flu, but hadn’t shown any symptoms, so it was only a possibility.