Unofficially dating deine
I don't like judging by the number of dates, because the more important factors are how well you know the person (in a tight-knit setting like high school, you usually know a person pretty well before dating him at all) and whether you both like where this is going.
It's as much about what you intend to keep doing as it is about what you've already done.
You say "This is Josh, my boy-" and then you stop yourself and start tripping over your words. When you're dating each other exclusively and you both intend to keep doing that.
If you're in a committed relationship, you are actively going on dates, and you both like this arrangement just fine, you are pretty much official.
You can't bring up what you've been imagining because, frankly, you don't want to be a stage-five clinger in the talking stage; nothing will send someone running for the hills faster. You can be stuck in thought, or you can stand up to this person and inquire about what the hell you two have going on.
You took a total Instagram-worthy selfie with your not-so-significant other. Bringing up the "what are we" conversation is scary, so drop hints or try some trickery to figure it out.
My friend says it counts because I asked him officially and he said yes. The second guy actually asked me "Will you be my girlfriend?
What in the hell is this world coming to when it comes to dating? It's a secret little demon, sitting, waiting for sh*t to hit the fan.
The thing is, I'm not sure if you'd rather have vindication that you have actually had a love life or some advice for future college/adult dating.
I certainly don't want to be like "NO SPARKLER YOU HAVE HAD ZERO BOYFRIENDS AND ALSO YOUR HAIR LOOKS TERRIBLE." I think your first relationship was probably too short to count, your second could be fairly called a middle-school relationship, and your third is the most relationship-y, despite its lack of official terms, because doing couple stuff matters more than calling yourselves a couple.
Again, it supposedly is considered going out and my first (very awkward) boyfriend by my friends but I'm unsure considering the whole no real dates situation.
Lastly I had this sort of dating relationship with this dude where we went on dates and did couple-y stuff except neither of us ever "officially" asked the other. So is that a relationship even though no one asked the other? I just really don't get this strange thing called dating.